The art of friendship is in allowing the other person to be who they really are. And it looks as if you value the friendship within this relationship just as much as the romantic or intimate content. But perhaps you may take something too much for granted, or take for granted the way the other person sees you or accepts you for what you are. Although it would certainly seem from your point of view that everything is as it should be, there must be something amiss for you to be spreading these cards. There may be sounds of discontent reverberating in the middle distance, but don't panic yet - just take stock and be prepared to make change.

Your partner is not in a mood for forgiveness or closer understanding. It has to be said that any pretence you make to normality is not to the best purpose. A sham may be in place, or an arrangement of convenience. if you don't see it, then the other clearly does. Sometimes one person holds up the union while the other goes through some turbulence, and if this is an overt manoeuvre then its often necessary and healthy. But if it goes on too long an imbalance is created which becomes a serious handicap or an insidious habit. If you want to live your life like that you had better be sure the game is worth the candle.

Perhaps you expected something to be easier than its proving to be. Or perhaps you feel that an impasse has been reached. This could be made of nothing more than strain, fatigue or a period of above average effort. Was it worth it? You may not think so at the present time, but after a respite or a bout of self-pity you might think otherwise! Whether or not one of you has been their own worst enemy you need to take seriously the need for calm, healing or a break from the battlefield. Actually, things are better than they look - maybe you are still too close up to the recent picture.

Do the right thing, not just the easy thing. If they happen to be one and the same then all to the good. See that there could be a lot of addressing of past error before you can even up the odds. Complete integrity and honesty are the only ways through here. Keep in mind that the old saying Ôvirtue is its own reward' has a meaning for all ages. Its not to do with blame and righteousness but with clarity and sense.