RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

Explained ...

(by Lyn Shea)

When people seek relationship advice, either from the tarot or other sources, they are really seeking to order their own thoughts or feelings. All advice or guidance is only as good as the individual's ability to receive it in the right frame of mind at the right time. Since the outer world is a mirror of our inner world no-one can put anything there that doesn't resonate with the choices we wish to make or the ideas we have already at source. Otherwise information is just not understood or is felt as alien to our view of things. Relationship advice is secondary to any inner urge or prompting we have already felt and supports or denies what we already wish to do.

All forms of counselling, informational input and self-help techniques are simply a means of magnifying or amplifying our deeper urges, and relationship advice is no exception. Nevertheless as a support system it's extremely useful and sometimes invaluable in times of mental and emotional chaos, because it acts as a means to help us discern or prioritize a jumble of conflicting emotions and impressions.

If we want to have a better perspective, or an impartial view of what is a subjective and purely personal experience then relationship advice can be compared to a cook book from which we can select ingredients and then mix them to suit our own taste. Not so much an infallible set of instructions, relationship advice is more like a do-it-yourself guide; you may make many mistakes along the way but at least they are your own mistakes carried out to your own design.

Because relationships are a learning process there is no perfect way and not just one perfect solution in any one situation, and therefore there is no perfect relationship advice. To approach the sensitive minefield of relationships and love matters requires a vulnerability and an aptitude for discovery; only when things go wrong do we actually go the extra mile in gaining understanding and exceeding our own timid limitations. Other people make us grow. They make us change, and often we resist it. We want to remain ourselves, and yet still have the ability to merge with another.

A relationship is either workable or its not, which doesn't mean it can't break down. But it does mean that it has the ability to heal and recharge. If things are forever miserable, painful or tense then all the relationship advice in the world is not going to change anything, unless it talks about the need to face the reality of complete and utter incompatibility.

Fundamentally, a relationship is happening or its not. To be at a conflict point is still as much a part of the relationship as to be on an even keel. They are two different angles of the same thing. The death of a relationship is indifference. Within true relationship it is impossible to be indifferent for a sustained period of time; the relationship just ceases to exist and becomes a non-relationship. Whilst its living and breathing and evolving then two people are riding the storm, even into very old age. The relationship is subject to variance and danger and human frailty, and one of the best ways to restore or maintain a perspective is to listen to objective advice - whether from your best friend, your mother or from a more detached source - and then take what you need from it and disregard what you don't. Relationship advice is useful to all ages, both sexes and anyone with the humility to understand that no-one gets it right all of the time.

At Cartouche our specific theme spreads concerning relationship at this moment of time are:
'Initial Encounter' 'State of the Heart 'and 'Emotional Healing' (see the intros to each for suitability).

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